According to Bronnie an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives, among such regrets as: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me, I wish I hadn’t worked so hard, I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings, I wish that I had let myself be happier, most people wish they had taken more time to appreciate their friends. She says,
‘It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love’.
In today’s fast-moving world of machine communication, even with the myriads of communication tools we have at our disposal,we have never been more disconnected.It’s true we are busy.I myself am guilty of this.However, taking time to occasionally check in with the people who mean alot to us can be our biggest investment.
A simple approach I use occasionally is to write a genuine, heart-felt message to a friend or even call letting them know even though I am really busy, I still think of them. Especially those friends who are far away in another country or continent.
More importantly, when we get a chance to be with our friends, keeping away all communication devices and controlling our temptation to constantly check our phones for the latest Facebook updates,tweets or even emails and giving the person 100% attention can be the best gift we can ever give someone.
What’s your own way of keeping in touch with friends you don’t see all the time? Please share in the comments.