Day #46:Managing your way through the ‘S**t storm’

There are  those moments when everything you believed about achieving your dreams and living that remarkable life seems like a stupid idea. Those times when you just want  to sit there and not give a crap about making any plans, falling in love or dreaming because you know it’s all a sham. it’s never going to happen.  Those moments when everything you have read in those self-help books or everything you told yourself about how awesome you and how you are going to change the world and  give life a kick in the butt is not working.Life is actually beating the hell out of you.

Those moments also vary in intensity,there is the very high level depressive stage where you generally have to see a psychologist. This post is not about this stage.We’ll leave that for the Shrinks.

We are interested in the very light point,  you are just flat-out of energy and you don’t feel like doing anything, you are not depressed, not really, you just don’t feel like going through any hyper performance stage, in other words, you are just ready to let yourself go. You skip the gym, or workout session,you go for the junk food,forget the diet.You have that deadline, but you really don’t care, you just want to watch some episodes of ‘Game of Thrones’ and sleep with a bottle of beer in your hands. You know what I am talking about.

I call these moments ‘the valley’.You know you don’t belong here and mostly it’s hard to figure out how you got there in the first place.Most times, it is due to an event,a situation or a person. Something you can’t control. You have just lost your job, your boyfriend/girlfriend left you, or maybe you left,something you really hope will work out didn’t, and so on.In some cases you just don’t know.

The question remains what do you do in this situation?

Well, there are two options, you can sit there and resign yourself to fate and just accept it as how it’s suppose to be or you can get up and give it a fight. By the way, if it makes you feel better,90 percent of the population live their lives like this.But that’s not you. You have dreams, you have plans, you are going to change the world.

One of the most valuable lessons I have learnt every time I find myself in this situation is first to realize that those moments will always come.There will always be low moments you can’t explain. You are not as motivated or inspired as you would like to be. Knowing this prepares you for the time it eventually happens.

Second, when in flight and you hit turbulence or you are in a huge storm, the most important thing to remember is to never stop, keep going till you ride out the storm .(I might have to check that out with Pilots). So in those moments when I am not energetic enough to run or work out, I take a walk instead and not sit there. One of my favourite quotes from Martin Luther King says it best, “If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.

Finally, remember why you chose to live that extraordinary life.I know this is not where I want to be and I try to remind myself of what I used to do or how it feels like to be in a state of peak performance. Most importantly, why did I chose that life I wanted over having a mediocre life.With time, I get my mojo back.

It might not work for you in that exact order but whatever you do, always just remember that’s not where you want to be.You are just here temporarily.


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