A few years ago I heard a story about success and achievement that deeply resonated with me and has stuck with me since.
A speaker (I can’t remember who) was presenting in front of a room of Fortune 100 executives.
He asked the group: “How many of you achieved success over the last year? You experienced returns on investment and reached quarterly goals.”
Almost the entire room raised their hands.
He then asked the group: “How many of you feel successful in the work that you do?
Three people raised their hands.
Achieving success is not the same as feeling successful.
We think of achievement as doing and having, strategic plans and to-do lists.
But why do we do those things? We do those things because we are driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way.
Being > Doing > Having
The key then is to start with how we want to feel, and who we want to be.
How do you want to feel when you wake up in the morning? Start your day? Walk into your office? Reach that big, scary goal? See the person you love? Close your eyes and fall asleep?
Clarify how you want to feel, in every moment of every day, and build your life around that way of being.