I just started a new job and like most people, there is that over bearing pressure of achieving ‘quick-wins’ as they call them in your job so your employer feel they made the right decision hiring you. This stress in addition to working in Lagos can make you grow old fast if you are not careful. Well I am just starting anyway.
I got on the internet and the first article I read felt like it was God sent. I felt at peace and just got more energy. Maybe this happens to you too. You have that moment you are really feeling stressed wondering how you are going to keep it all together. Suddenly someone says something or you read something that looks like the right word for that moment. I want to share this article by Leo Babauta.I hope it helps you in case you are in similar situation.
You’re worried about some things at work, and all the things you have to do in your personal life (taxes, errands, bills). You have this feeling you should be doing more, doing something else. All the time.
You worry about how you look, about how you’re perceived, about how you’ll do, about whether you’ll fail, about how much you have to do, about what you don’t have, about what you’re missing out on, about how you compare to others.
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. We all worry about these things.
Here’s the thing: in all of these cases, you’ll be OK. Life will turn out just fine.
We’re always worried about what might go wrong, about the bad things people think about us, and so on. We’re focused on the bad outcomes only.
Those bad outcomes are just a few possibilities out of many, and they’re unlikely to come true.
And even if they do (let’s say someone thinks badly of you), the bad outcomes rarely ever mean anything disastrous for our lives.
Even if the bad things come true, you’ll be OK.
Picture the things you’ve worried about in the last few years: little things mostly. And in all of those cases, you turned out fine. Life didn’t collapse.
If you start to build confidence that you’ll be OK, you can let go of the worries (when you notice them). You can feel good, rather than being consumed by worry and anxiety all the time.
You walk down the street, relaxed, with a smile on your face.