Rabbi Iaakov’s wife was always looking for an excuse to argue with her husband. Iaakov never answered her provocations. Until one night, during a dinner with some friends, when the rabbi had a ferocious argument with his wife, to the surprise of all at table.
“What happened?” they asked. “Why did you break your habit of never answering?”
“Because I realised that what bothered my wife most was the fact that I remained silent. Acting in this way, I remained far from her emotions.
“My reaction was an act of love, and I managed to make her understand that I heard her words.”